Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Identity After Trauma: How to Rediscover Yourself

Rediscovering Yourself After Life Changes

Major life disruptions, like trauma, loss, or significant changes, can really shake up how we see ourselves and the world around us. These events often leave us feeling disconnected and overwhelmed by all the uncertainty. We often want to turn back the clock to who we were before and forget what happened to us. But we need to learn who we are after the trauma, the loss, or major life shifts. As we begin to focus on our personal values, strengths, and the experiences that have shaped us, we can learn to navigate this journey and redefine who we are.

Have you ever noticed how the quiet of nighttime seems to switch on a loudspeaker in your brain, replaying old conversations, worries, and regrets? You are not alone! This process of repetitive, looping thoughts is called rumination. In my therapy practice, clients often ask, "Why does my brain do this? And how can I stop it?" Let's unpack exactly why this happens, the neuroscience behind it, and what you can do about it to improve your sleep.

Anyone who has struggled with anxiety knows that it can make you feel tense, nervous, and unable to relax. Finding ways to reduce anxiety and increase relaxation is key to managing anxious thoughts. Getting outdoors is scientifically proven and evidence-based to improve mental health and reduce stress, anxiety, and anger. Luckily, living in Massachusetts, there are many opportunities to spend time outdoors and reduce anxiety while at it.

Some days are harder than others. Here is a reminder sheet to help you through those tough times. 

If you have ever been confused about anxiety terms or what they mean, here is a breakdown of the most commonly used terms related to anxiety.

Are you wondering if you have anxiety? It can be hard to tell if our worries are situational and helpful, or excessive and unhelpful. Do you find yourself wondering if your level of worry unhelpful or “normal”? You may be asking yourself, “Does everyone worry about fill in the blank? or “ How do other people manage their days without worrying about fill in the blank?

10 tips for managing and reducing anxiety.